Tuesday, March 25, 2008

A little scared...

Okay, so lately I have been having some issues. I had my first emotional breakdowns for this pregnancy the other night (aside from the emotional breakdown I suffered when I found out I was having twins).

I am so scared that Emma is going to have to "grow up" too much when new babies come into the house. I am afraid that I won't get to give her all the attention that I want to give her. I am scared that she will feel like she is less important for some reason. This may seem incredibly ridiculous to some of you. Did anyone else feel like this when you had your second (and third) kids? This is really weighing heavy on my mind, and making me quite sad. It has been the source of quite a bit of emotion lately. Anyway, I thought that maybe I would feel a little better about it if I got it out. I figured my blog was safer than actually having to say the words...Let me know if you have any advice.

5 comments:

Michelle said...

I was worried about Braden having to "grow up" when I had Logan. They are only 18 months apart. That totally didn't happen. It is amazing to me how we can make time for each of our kids (no matter how many we have) and still make them all feel special. I understand your worries, but everything will fall into place! You are having twins at this time because Someone wants them here. He will help you to find a perfect balance between all of your children!!

Lexie and Jeff said...

One thing that helps me feel like I'm still paying enough attention to Kate is making her feel like she is a big help with Macie. I know that means she's growing up a little too, but she is involved with Macie, so she feels a part of everything. Plus, I think Michelle is right- it is amazig how you can make time for each of your kids. Of course it will be an adjustment and it will take some time to figure out (especially with twins, I'm sure) but it will all work out!

Piglet 26 said...

I felt the same way about George! But then as soon as I had Henry, George was my big boy and I expected way more out of him. I asked him to bring me diapers and take the dirty ones away. I also lost my cool with George more easily because I expected him to be a big boy. Now that I look back on it, I really really regret that! I only tell you this because I would say it is one of the biggest mistakes I have made as a parent, but you, who is such a better parent then I am will handle the new babies and Emma situation perfectly. I remember asking you for advice when I had little George and baby Henry, and you were always very helpful. I tihnk you will be great!

Marjorie said...

how I remember those REAL feelings. After Spencer was born I realized it was more of an additional gift of love I had given him. Definitely there will be hard times but you will see the additional amount of love you have for Emma when seeing her interact SMS love her little brothers!

PS i hear congratulations is in order. Can't wait for the update!

emlizalmo said...

Hi Haley! I'm a friend of Ammon and Jillian's. I just wanted to tell you a bit of what I felt when my twins (now 7) were born and my little boy was only 22 months. I seriously wondered if I had enough love to go all the way around. Would I have to cut The amount I felt for Alex in half, so that I could give the girls what they need? Would I love the twins the same? I even went so far as to rotate who got the old carseat and who got the new one so there was no preferential treatment. All I know is this...The Lord blesses us with more love than we thought he could. I remember finally understanding how He could love all of us so much, so equally, when I learned how much I felt for each of my own children. Because you worry about your little girl, you will be aware of how much attention she gets. You'll make sure she gets enough. I do find though, that friends and family tended to gravitate towards the twins. It bummed me out for a bit, but then I realized it could just give me more special time with my older one. Whenever you have that camera out taking pictures of those cute boys, take some of your daughter too. They are all just gorgeous! Congratulations...you will LOVE it!